We do not have to put so much pressure on ourselves as parents, nor do we have to hold our parents responsible for their misgivings or perceived failures. Life is our teacher and everything that has happened to us is with purpose, molding our identity, our character, teaching us how to be in this world
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It’s always when you feel you’re lacking something that life offers you that thing you are lacking and says, “Here you go… but there may be a cost attached.” Oh, the lovely opportunity cost that causes you to lose when you gain. It’s always the balance of figuring out whether you want to play the game. Do I risk losing A to gain B?
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As I get older, I’m finding that self-discipline is the most important trait that any of us can have. Self-discipline pushes us to do the things we “don’t feel like doing” for our own benefit. It’s the parent within us or the higher self that says, “I know you don’t want to eat your dinner, but you must if you are to grow and be healthy.”
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Day 1 of “operation clean-up,” 4 short streets, 3 full bags of litter were picked up today by my daughter and me in our town within a matter of 2-3 hours. One person can make a difference. As we went about our business today, there were several things that really stood out to me, which
I’m struggling to find the motivation to write at the moment. Yet, I’ve committed and so here I am attempting to follow through even though I feel somewhat uninspired. I’m hopeful that as my fingers hit the keys the divine will come through and turn this rambling into hidden treasure, but even if that doesn’t happen I will honor the promise I made to myself.
It is sometimes hard for introverts to be understood because although we love you deeply, we can only tolerate so much constant interaction with you before we feel ourselves start to fade into the darker places where we don’t wish to go.
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Priorities… they define so much of one’s life and yet many times we don’t take the time to clearly define what they are. How can you live a life that fulfills, when you haven’t yet defined what it is you want to be filled with?
When we act on feelings, we wind up with actions that aren’t always in our best interest. We feel vengeful so we key a car, then get caught and end up in court. We feel angry, so we lash out and say a bunch of stuff we don’t mean to intentionally hurt the person that made us angry…
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I have often found myself in a game of hide and seek with joy where it has gone into hiding for far too long. As I look back, I realize the errors of my ways… the primary one being that I was the seeker yet I expected joy to find me.
Money is simply a resource that allows you to send your energy where you cannot be. It allows you to vote every time you open your wallet for what you care about. Suppose every dollar counts as 1 vote toward the things you want to see more of in this world.
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Yoga is NOT JUST A WORKOUT! I feel it is a travesty that the West often portrays it this way when marketing. It is so much more. It is a resource for introspection that allows you to discover who you truly are and treat yourself accordingly. It is about yoking all facets of your being together so that there is no division…
I just have to stoke the flames of purpose and surround myself with others who can do so when I lose sight of the fire and start allowing it to dim. We all need a team of people around us who care enough to throw some proverbial wood on our fire when they see our flames getting low.
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Passion is a double edged sword. Passion fuels you with desire to move forward in endeavors, yet it can also cause you to be crushed when they don’t go as you would have hoped. Living a wholehearted life requires that we allow these fluctuations and accept them as part of our experience.
As I engage in self-study, I see when my ego is about to roar and am better able to take a pause before I say or do something that won’t lead to the highest good… mine or anybody else’s. Today, while on a conference call, I felt my annoyance growing with a colleague of mine
Why do we complain incessantly about the same things rather than take the initiative to fix them? I just finished reading “Year of Yes” by Shonda Rhimes, so it may be why my partner’s complaints about the same old things are really grating on my nerves. I’m trying to start living my own life in
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I woke up this morning thinking about commitment, self-discipline, and the definition of passion. I recently read a book called, “Everything that Remains,” by Joshua Fields Milburn and Ryan Nicodemus and it inspired me in a very real way. I felt as though it was divinely put on my path at this point in my
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Addiction is insidious. It creeps in without being seen and takes hold of one’s mind under the guise of normalcy. It pretends that it belongs there because, “other people do it,” “it’s no big deal”, “it isn’t really affecting my life.” Yet, when we attempt to stop, we realize how big of a hold it
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We are very interesting creatures. As I grow in my spirituality and more deeply into myself I’m coming to understand this journey more each day. Yesterday, I stumbled. I acted reactively when confronted with a frustrating situation. Traffic was at a standstill on the highway I was attempting to merge onto and this man a
It’s frustrating when someone says they will do something and then they don’t. This one thing cuts through me like a knife. If you want to irritate me, tell me you are going to do something and then fail to do it. I think I’m a pretty easy person to live with. I don’t ask
It’s interesting how judgment can lead to such insidious behavior in people. Recently, I’d had an experience where I was severely misjudged. An extremely off base attack was made on my parenting, which could have resulted in a violent situation if I were a different person than I am today. I am so grateful for
I’m a firm believer that when you ask, you usually receive although what you receive isn’t always what you’d expected. As I’ve been seeking more opportunities to be of service lately, my eyes have been opened to the # of people in my immediate circle who are hurting and in need support and love. Some
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I just finished reading “Wayne Dyer’s book, “Your Erroneous Zones” and overall I’d say it was an amazing book that has the ability to help it’s readers become more inner centered rather than outer oriented. As I was reading some parts, especially the chapter on dependency, I could see how some of the information could
Time heals all wounds is a fallacy, is only something people say when the cut was just skin-deep Unknown Why is it that people long for confirmation that they are “normal”? I’ve had so many conversations with people throughout my life that contain the sentence “Is that weird?” or, “I thought I was the only
We live in a fast-paced world. If you are a working parent, you realize that there is barely enough time to spend quality time with our children before they go to bed when we are putting them to bed at a reasonable hour to ensure their physical health and mental acuity for the next day.
Movie night with my family led us to watch “The Lorax.” I’ve often spoke of how I enjoy children’s movies more than adult movies for the sole reason that I believe they speak to the soul more deeply with spiritual lessons. I’m enthralled with Dr. Seuss and convinced he was an enlightened being that graced
Courage… it’s an odd thing. So often we think of courage as some sort of “hero” quality, and it is. However, we discount the “hero” that lives within us that enables us to step up to the plate in small acts of bravery every day. For instance, today I celebrate my bravery of this week
I’ve just gotten home from church and it’s really trippy how my writings wind up coming out of my pastor’s mouth. There are plenty of topics to choose from in the Bible and yet my pastor and I seem to be riding the same wavelength for awhile now. It seems that I have an inspired
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This evening, I was snuggling with my daughter as I usually do for about 10 minutes every night and a quote that I’d read the other day hit me, “At some point of your childhood you and your friends went outside to play together for the last time, and nobody knew it.” This quote has
Funerals have a way of reminding the living what is really important in life. It is an opportunity to see the inevitable destination we all arrive at and causes us to question whether we’re living in a way that we’ll be satisfied with when our own eulogy is spoken as we are laid to rest.
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“I believed in God so I spoke” 2 Corinthians 4:13 This morning I came across this beautiful verse and it comes at such a wonderful time. I was just speaking to my therapist this morning about how old mental scripts die hard and indicated that I am feeling like I’m doing a good job counteracting